What about me??

**Arimeh** · August 30th, 2011, 08:01 AM

OMG this is driving me mental, please tell me its a normal stage.

DS has this thing at the moment, if any of his siblings get anything (ranging from a reward for good toilet training for DD1, to their photo being taken) he's always piping up with "what about me?!?"

And it is driving me mental!!!

Especially with the toilet training - he's been toilet trained for 18 months, and DD1 is currently training, so she gets a chocolate or a sticker every time she does a wee on the potty - so then he wants one for going to the toilet as well! Which he's been doing for the last year and a half FFS!!

DH just took a photo of DD1 cos she looked cute, and then DS was like - what about me?!? Take a picture of me....

It just goes on and on and on.. all bloody day... and I'm so over it, driving me freakin' insane!!!!!!!

Is this normal!?!? He's never had it this bad before, slight jealousy issues if we were cuddling one of his siblings, but this is getting ridiculous!!!!! He's just so low on confidence and has issues in that area as well, but its hard for me to keep my patience when he harps on about being rewarded for doing something that he's been doing for so long - and that he was rewarded for 18 months ago when he was training!!

Please help me not to kill my child

**NaeNae** · August 30th, 2011, 08:06 AM

hmmmm no experience in this area but is there something he is learning or something you can ask him to do (like a chore or something) where he can be rewarded for his efforts??

Was just thinking if there was you can say "this is for Miss because she does XYZ, YOU get prize when you do ABC" so he starts some sort of an understanding that he gets rewards for things Miss doesn't do and vice versa ????

or something like that

**Erin_25** · August 30th, 2011, 08:11 AM

I like the above idea, that could work. Sounds fairly normal, my DS1 who is 4.5yrs all of a sudden has started saying "hey, that's not fair..." and goes on to complain that DS2 has something he doesn't grrrrrrr.

**Arimeh** · August 30th, 2011, 08:52 AM

Nae - we've explained to him that if he goes to bed by himself then he'll get 50c. Nope, doesn't want to do it.

Its even simple things like before, I was doing up the 3 morning juices for the big kids, and then because I gave DD2 hers first - he was like - "heyyyy how come she gets hers before me.. I never get anything first..."

To which we usually reply "Aricyn you were BORN first, you'll always have that.." LOL

Argh he's just driving my head in with his competitiveness... like if I say Kelti is doing a good job (which she is, hardly any accidents, none since yesterday morning) then he will pipe up with "Kelti is doing a better job than I did" arghhhhhh!!!

FFS child - you trained within a day - you can't get better than THAT!!!!!

**Epacris** · August 30th, 2011, 08:54 AM

I’d just break out into song. My DS1 often cops Cher’s “If I could turn back time” when he gets like that.

**Arimeh** · August 30th, 2011, 08:56 AM

I’d just break out into song. My DS1 often cops Cher’s “If I could turn back time” when he gets like that.

LOL love it. Thankfully I know that song quite well

**Jennifer13** · August 30th, 2011, 01:03 PM

DD isn't at A's level, but she thinks if we get to do or choose something as adults that she can't then THAT'S not fair! And there is no way that child misses out (my current response to "that's not fair" is that we are giving her the baby sister she so desperately wants, so I think we've gone above and beyond what is 'fair'.

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So I'd say it's completely normal, just calculated to drive you nuts.

Love Epacris's suggestion. Similar thinking is that you can start whingeing in return about how you never got such and such either, or how you were so hard done by when you were a child (think of a reason...). Annoying, but breaks the whinge!

**Epacris** · August 30th, 2011, 02:43 PM

My DS1 would absolutely crack it when I started with “If could turn back time” but now he sings along too. Another good one is “It’s the end of the world as we know it”.

And some hugs.

**Mak** · August 30th, 2011, 04:45 PM

Try clucking like a chook - turns messy moments here into hysterics. Actually better as then I don't feel so bad for losing the plot! Gawd can't believe I have admitted to it, lol!!!

**Arimeh** · August 30th, 2011, 04:51 PM

Try clucking like a chook - turns messy moments here into hysterics. Actually better as then I don't feel so bad for losing the plot! Gawd can't believe I have admitted to it, lol!!!

LOL!!!!!

Omg that is gold. love it.

Thanks for the tips guys. I've lost it at him more times than I would like to admit, but will try these things.