What am I doing wrong?

[RoyaUK]

Congratulations on your new little girl. You're not doing anything wrong. it's so hard with sleep deprivation and an older child too to care for - there's no real time for rest at all. I felt like you first time round and then one day decided i'd feed my baby when she's hungry and she'll sleep when she's tired. However and as often as required. I would try to stop watching the clock as it can be too depressing (especially at night).

Do you have a sling? i found especially with DD2 i'd give it 20 mins max to try to get her to sleep and if she didn't, i'd pop her in the sling and she'd either drop off or not but i'd be free to do other things - like take my (then) toddler for a play in the park or even eat my food in peace (as i wasn't 'holding' a baby). Another advantage is she's close to your heart and upright which really helps with wind. Many babies seem to need to be held 24/7 around the 5 - 8 week period too and the sling was great for that.

My DD3 still doesn't have a routine apart from going to bed sometime between 6 and 7.30pm and i don't really expect one before she's 6 mths old (if she's anything like her sisters).

good luck

[Doodlebug]

Sounds like my world here at the moment too hun! I totally understand where you're coming from.
Ds2 has no routine at all, apart from regular feeding times. Sleep happens here and there, when we're not paying bills, picking up or dropping ds1 off at kindy or doing any other day to day chores. I put him on his playmat this morning and looked down after I did the dishes and he'd fallen asleep on it!
The afternoons... that's another story. Not much sleep happens here!!! He's laying on me as I type now and is finally quiet after 10mins of solid screaming. He's exhausted but jsut won't settle for a decent sleep in the afternoon.
It's also the same with my mum or any friends who pop over in the afternoon. They can settle him no probs and he'll quite happily snooze on them for ages..... me.... not a chance! I'm putting it down to the fact that I'm the milk factory!
Hang in there hun, apparently it gets better!!