DD 1 is 3 years old. Was 3 in august. me and my two dds get into my bed, i read a book and we all fall asleep together...then i put dd1 in her bed. if, on the odd ocation dd2 falls asleep and dd1 is still awake, normally if dd1 has had an afternoon sleep, then i lay in her bed with her till she falls asleep. once she is asleep and in her own bed, she sleeps till 5am! thats just what works for us, we tried alot of different things! when i was pregnant i tried to get her to self settle for a few weeks but it didnt work out, she wasnt ready. good luck