what did you say??

[sirenz]

grrrr this is doing my head in!!

ds all day long says to me "what did you say" EVERYTIME i say something to him and I mean EVERYTIME!! and then I will repeat to him what I just said and then he says "what did you say" again!!!!

I don't get it, is it some sort of phase they all go thru, plz tell me its a phase and it will be over soon I can't repeat myself anymore, its so damn frustrating.

We even ask him to repeat what we said after he asks "what did you say" just to make sure its not his hearing and he does repeat exactly what we say, so yes he can hear us.

We have tried ignoring it hoping he will just forget about saying it, but he doesn't.

DH had a little chat to him the other day and explained that if he understood what we said, then he doesn't need to say "what did you say". It was about a 10 minute conversation and at the end of it, guess what ds said, "WHAT DID YOU SAY" !! of course we had a little chuckle to ourselves (when ds couldn't see) as it was completely obvious he was going to say it after this big conversation

OMG LORD KILL ME NOW what should i do??

plz help

[~Serenity~]

yep i went through that too, i ended up either ignoring it or just saying you know what i said...its kind of a game i think, but annoying none the less

[~Hestia~]

Aaargh sounds very frustrating!

[kirsty_lee]

Oh I didnt/dont even get THAT. I get HUH? and she does it on purpose, she heard full well what I said.. but it's huh... i say it again... huh... i say it again.. HUH... you heard me ava.. then she laughs

[sweetgloss]

Our DS (3) has been saying "huh?" ALOT when we talk to him, at first we thought he had trouble hearing or understanding what we were saying, until we realised he only said it when we said something he didnt like, it's his way of ignoring us grrrrrrr. Our conversations are something like this "Ok mister time for bed" "Huh?" "Time for bed, c'mon!" "Huh?" "Time for bed! Let's go!" "HUH?" AAAARRRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

So very irritating, I am hoping for your sake as well as mine that it is a phase!!!

GL! xx

[sirenz]

thanks ladies, good to know i'm not alone... still its driving me up the wall !!

Serenity - did the ignoring work? it does for us SOMETIMES, but other times he just keeps saying what did you say until we repeat what we said and then he will say it again grrrr..

sometimes we don't even finish what we are saying before he says what did you say ... just don't know what to do, i can't ignore him forever, somethings gotta give

[Fig]

My DD says exactly the same all the time 'What did you say' a million times a day. I am amazed that someone else has the exact same thing. I even considerded getting her hearing tested!!

I have found listening to myself, that is what I say to her when I don't understand or didn't hear what she said. The other thing is that she used to say "I think" at the end of all her sentences. Something else she picked up from me. That has stopped and been replaced with "what did you say". So I think it is a stage. They just pick up these little quirks in language get fixated with it and then move on to the next thing. So that I don't listen to myself endlessly repeating what I said all day I try to not anwser it, but sometimes its just habit for me that I anwser her.

[AnyDream]

:yeahthat:
I was about to jump in and say get an auditory processing assessment done. Sometimes the sound is getting thru but the brains just not processing the meaning.

[kirsty_lee]

Even if they are giggling while they are doing it?

[Yeddi]

Even if they are giggling while they are doing it?

I don't think it sounds like your DD would have CAPD Kristy_Lee. It just sounds like she knows how to push your buttons and it has become a bit of a game.

It's the fact that sirenz's DS repeats what is said and sometimes still gets it a little off that would make me think CAPD. It sounds like he is trying. It's not so much the need for repetition of an instruction alone but that in conjunction with at least one of the other indicators that would make me investigate it.

[sirenz]

thank you so much for your reply Yeddi.

DS is extremely clumsy and I did often think it had something to do with his hearing and sometimes he is sensitive to noise

Does a GP perform the test or will I need a referral?

[Yeddi]

It depends where you live. I went to the Brindabella Hearing Centre here in Canberra and they deal with diagnosing all types of hearing/processing/speech issues. Your GP might know of something similar in your area, but they wouldn't have the equipment to do it themselves.

To give you comfort, it is a very treatable issue and often just requires understanding and slight changes in how you as a parent phrase things etc. And catching it early will avoid many of the issues they may have with schooling etc.

[AnyDream]

The other thing having a diagnosis helps with is it will give you a list of recommendations for the teacher to follow... Things like seating somewhere away from other noise sources in classrroom, teacher needs to 'chunk' info, then pause, then check for comprehension, etc. Good teachers do this naturally but not every teacher knows to. Definitely get an assessment done & good luck with it.