When DS1 was born, for the first few weeks mum came down to our house for the day a few times, then when DH went back to work she would come and stay overnight once a week (she lives about 45km away).
Mum helped with everything - she helped me with DS1 (as until then the most I'd had to do with babies was hold them and that was only brief) - giving me guidance and watching him while I rested. She also did pretty much all my housework - from washing up, putting dishes away, doing my washing, hanging it out, sorting it, helped me make dinner, bought us dinner (take out), ironing, vacuuming, dusting...everything! She would also race into DS1 when he would wake on the morning she'd stay so I could have that little more sleep - DS1 would be all changed and just be ready for a feed when she would come wake me for his feed. Alot were done together with me, but when she'd tell me to go rest she would just do stuff. I'd come out to find the washing in and sorted and ironed, or the dishes we'd eaten lunch with all away - and I'd keep telling her thankyou, but she doesn't need to do all that, but it was all greatly appreciated.
When DS2 arrived, she would take DS1 up to there house to stay 1 or 2 nights, and also continue to visit weekly (with occassional overnight stays, though not like DS1 - as we no longer have a spare bed and this time I was obviously more confident with what I was doing).
Even now she continues to help out - comes down to our house once a week to look after both my boys while I go to work and then on the other 2 days I work she takes DS2 back to stay at their house (DS1 is in child care - we are still waiting for a position for DS2 and I've been back at work over just over 4 months now).
I know I have been very blessed with such a wonderful and caring mum.
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