it's so frustrating when they won't sleep.

have you thought about a mattress on the floor? i used to BF DS on my lap (sitting on the mattress) & then put him down awake & cuddle him to sleep. now we're not BFing anymore & he's in a single bed but we still lie next to him.

i stopped feeding to sleep when it became hit & miss as to whether he'd stay asleep - i decided consistency was better so it seemed easier to always put him down awake. he was a bit cranky the first couple of times (but not distressed) & then was fine. it was actually easier than i expected.

we did also go through a stage where DS would quite happily lie with me but just wouldn't sleep unless it was DP next to him. now it's back to having to be me. we just go with the flow - as HotI says, it's ultimately easier than trying to fight it.