I kneel down and ask DD to come and tell Mummy what is wrong (always did this even though she couldn't actually tell me). If she came for a cuddle, all was good and I could normally distract her. If not, I say 'Until you are ready for Mummy to help you, I am over here'. All this while down on the ground..

I do the same out in public, and have had to carry her under my arm out to the car when she would just not settle. But except for making sure she wasn't going to hit anything (cause she was like she was flying), I totally ignored her.

But we are getting less tantrums when I am around, but I have been sick the last few days, and DH just doesn't pick up on her signs to help eliminate them, so I am normally woken by a tantruming DD screaming for Mummy.