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thread: What are the hardest things about being a mum to a newborn?

  1. #19
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2004
    5,756

    Not knowing what is wrong and nothing settles them when they are screaming the house down and you've tried everything you can think of.


  2. #20
    BellyBelly Member

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    1,241

    Thought I would bump this topic as there are lots of new mums out and loads more coming up...

    The hardest thing, beside the loss of sleep, is trying not to be too protective! Let Dad do what he needs to even though it's not how you would do it!

    Also, changing them all the time, nappy. clothes and bedding, because they poo, wee and vomit all the time.

  3. #21
    Scarlett Guest

    The broken sleep, knowing that you are going to have to get up in three hours or so can be really depressing.

    Not being able to eat a meal together.

    Feeling judged by family members who think they know better what baby wants/needs etc.

    Finally getting baby off to sleep and deciding to try for some yourself only to have her wake up just as you drift off.

  4. #22
    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    11,171

    Not being able to sleep when baby is asleep - my mind keeps churning over & I just can't nod off *yawn*

  5. #23
    Stacey Guest

    I tried and tried to sleep when baby slept it was totally impossible for me too !! I heard all the little voices in my head saying "sleep NOW", I heard DH telling me to sleep, I even heard the girl at the coffee shop telling me to sleep .... never could ...

    I also think Doctors who won't listen to your mothers instincts.

    I also get annoyed when I got out to places and you carn't find a plastic cup !!! especially at my parents place ..

    Also those looks you get in public when your bub is crying ....

  6. #24
    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    11,171

    *bump*

  7. #25
    BellyBelly Member
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    May 2004
    Brisbane
    1,814

    - SLEEP DEPRIVATION!!! By far the *worst, worst* thing ever!

    - How much "stuff" you need to take just to walk outside the front door for 10 minutes - no longer can you just pick up your bag and keys and walk out the door

    - How hard breastfeeding can be at first

  8. #26
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Central Victoria
    31

    Not being able to comfort them, and then having DF walk in and pick bubs up and hearing silence.

  9. #27
    BellyBelly Member

    Jul 2005
    Cronulla
    1,030

    Lack of sleep
    Lack of consideration - on everyone's part - from the post man to the census form guy *grrrrr*
    Not being able to settle your baby for no apparent reason
    Special alone time with DH

  10. #28
    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    11,171

    Lack of consideration - on everyone's part - from the post man to the census form guy *grrrrr*
    IKWYM there, why is it that people feel the need to knock on the door so hard???

  11. #29
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2004
    Melbourne
    970

    just adjusting to being a mum full stop. is such a different world from the one you knew, and pretty different to how you had imaginged it.

  12. #30

    Jun 2006
    Penrith, NSW
    1,979

    Selfish grandparents thinking that it's all about them and their need to see bubs instead of being sensitive to the needs of the newborn or the new parents

    Having a newborn with nasty reflux and not being able to do anything for them

  13. #31
    BellyBelly Member

    Dec 2005
    255

    I agree with all of the above but the biggest thing for me was realising I had someone so dependent upon me I was never going to be alone...which was also the best thing!

  14. #32
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2005
    Sydney, NSW
    3,352

    For me personally it was an intense loneliness, as though only myself and the baby exist. Even though there's people around, i feel in a world of my own (possibly baby blues I would think). This lasts a month for me, and as much as I love meeting my new baby, it is really lonely, and totally fearful. (Im anxious at the best of times) xoxo

  15. #33
    BellyBelly Member

    Sep 2004
    WA
    959

    Figuring out what their different cries mean. Learning to breastfeed. Coping with your changing hormones while experiencing such a huge change to your lifestyle and relationships.....Lack of Sleep!

  16. #34
    Our castle is now full

    Nov 2004
    Western Australia
    2,300

    Sleep deprivation definately and the guilt attached with not being able to be everything to everybody.

    Jo

  17. #35
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2005
    Perth , WA
    477

    EVERYONE telling you how to raise your baby ( or trying to raise it for you ).. and getting very offended when you dont follow their advice.
    Next time i'll get a t-shirt saying " DONT FORGET - I AM THE MOTHER "

  18. #36
    Geniebean Guest

    no sleep and when she cries and cries and NOTHING helps

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