With DD1 I was always anxious with her sleep, or 'lack of sleep' as she was difficult. Even these days I wonder is she getting enough.
These days since having DD2 I am one of the most relaxed mum's and I am happy she is a great sleeper!
I do worry about preservatives etc in the kids food lately and try my best to limit those sort of foods in their diet. I worry about childhood cancer because I read about it and it's more common now but I try not to worry about it as it may never happen
My pet worry is that I turn out like my mother - I have no worries about my children. They're perfect just as they are, head shape, sleep, eating, personality quirks... perfect.
I would like my son to grow up to be a proper gentleman. Not as in owning a country manor etc (but that would be nice) - just a good, decent man who is polite and curteous. I'd want any child of mine to grow up to be "good" people.
Unfortunately with both girls it has been their hearts (heart defects) and the whole hungry/tired/not growing/development issues merry-go-round that goes with it.
Mine are mental development/health and apathy/laziness. I dread the thought of a lazy, disinterested, selfish child or teenager like so many I have taught. I am also always on the lookout for signs of Autism/ADHD etc
I also get myself in a tizz about the constant talk about 'sharing' with one and two year olds. Everybody seems to be always judging toddlers on their ability to share just like they were judging them on their ability to sleep when they were babies. Both things that they are usually incapable of doing at the age they are being judged at!!!! So I spend a lot of time at playgroups watching my son and saying in my head 'please please please don't take that toy.....oh dammit'
My " thing" at MG would have to be biting my tongue. SO many times I have wanted to shake one of them by the shoulders and make them read the research.
If I had to say one thing, it would be the environment, and our green-leaning way of life.
I check for early indicators of autism/ADHD as there is a family history and DH is a special needs teacher so he's aware of it as well. My DS is gorgeously exuberant, so at Mother's group I spend a lot of time chasing him around and apologising as he grabs another kid's toy and bolts with it and telling the other mother's that he's fine when he's climbing on furniture (at my own home, when we're at someone else's house it's their rules). I'd rather encourage him to explore and set his own physical limits than decide for him what he is and isn't capable of. So I worry about finding the line between polite society and toddler expression of self
As babies: it was SIDS, i had a brother pass of SIDS and DD1 was the same age around the same time and i was petrified.
As children: it's getting them to eat right at dinner time and making sure they get enough stimulation - i want active healthy kids who enjoy a good mix of indoors & out, it's so hard finding the time and energy sometimes to get them doing things and eating properly.... DD1 is a PITA at dinner time and it's annoying me no end, i'm now working on ways to get her eating veggies etc again and it's making me mental
Babies it's SIDS, as they get older it's speech. DS has ASD and the one of first big indicators was his lack of speech. At 4 his speech is that of an 18 month old. My DDs talk non stop in sentences and with excellent awareness so that makes me stress less.
From the moment I got pregnant, my big worry was toilet training! For everything else, I felt like I could go with the flow and follow their lead but toilet training felt like something I would need to be more actively involved in, I wish I had known about elimination communication at the time. Toilet training ended up being pretty cruisey though I still have DD2 to worry about!!
Right now it's sleep (with DS2). DS2 is still waking several times a night to be fed (he's breast fed) which is sooo tiring since DD and DS1 were also terrible sleepers until they were about 3. I would love to experience a night that none of my kids woke me up and that I got up of my own accord in the morning and not 5am!
And food mostly with DS1, who is a terrible eater. I worry about them developing permanent issues because of me trying to get them to eat, so I try not to be too stressed over it, but I also want them to realise they are lucky to have such food, and that it's important to have a healthy diet every day! I don't wan them developing any type of eating issues because of me.
I also worry about DD not being a self righteous brat. She is getting to an age where her attitude is beginning to become an issue! Teaching her manners and respect is not difficult exactly, since she know's what to say and when, she also know's how to push buttons and be totally disrespectful!
Mine certainly changes as my children get older, and my concerns are different for each of them.
DD1 to be honest I don't worry about too much now as she has grown intoa healthy, self assured, happy little person but I do worry that people will take her easygoing nature for granted. As a baby it was reflux, allergies and gut issues. She was a very sick little poppet.
DD2 was again the gut issues, but she also has extreme anxiety that will most likely be a life long condition she will need to deal with, so that is and I imagine will always be my huge worry for her - how she is going to cope in a world that at times overwhelms her so completely.
I was bullied so bad in primary and high school that before I ever thought about having kids I worried for them!
I worry about them having good behaviour to others and to have friends and have a good/fun childhood.
That is why I take them out to visit their lil friends most weeks, they go to daycare to interact with the other children and DS1 does a sport at Kindy also.
DS1 is a very cheeky child and pushes my buttons everyday. I don't want him to be bullied but also I DO NOT want him to bully other children. It stresses me out everyday to try and teach him the right behaviour when sometimes I feel that I have no idea how to deal with it.
If that makes sense?
Anyway, I want to give them the best chance at a happy childhood! I didn't get one and it still affects me to this day!!
I worry that she won't be liked by other kids, that she'll find it hard to make friends. I went through some tough times at school and it breaks my heart to think the same could happen to my beautiful girl.
Since starting work I'm also worried I'm not with her enough, and when I am with her I need to do other things - like shopping, or dishes or laundry. I hate that she spends so long with other people at daycare, and worry that I'm neglecting her
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she is a great sleeper!
because I read about it and it's more common now
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