DD just passed this phase and I got past it by asking her to cooperate by offering an alternative. Instead of "no, don't climb on the dishwasher" It was "can you get me the plates please so we can put them away?" Like Santosha and Ladie Zaidie I offered an alternative. I found she responds better if i phrase it as a question too rather then a demand. It took a few weeks of hair pulling for me to figure it out but it worked for me. It is a phase of exploration and testing limits! I just made sure that I was cheerily praising her when she cooperated! By the way, DD will now find her clothes and shoes in the morning while I pack the nappy bag in the morning so she has something to do. Hope it goes smoother for you soon hun (and Liviam)!

HTH!