Ally, all is good sweety. I didn't take any offense to your post at all. Just letting you know how I felt on the subject. I have had a few of those discussions over the years - not with infertile people, rather those who have their pigeon pairs. Of course, generally people who have atleast one of each can't understand what it is like to want a particular gender so bad.
As much I guess, as fertile women can't "truely" understand the yearning an infertile couple would haev. We can all only try to understand, offer compassion, and if we don't agree, walk away.
mbear, I would be more concerned for those who have a "void in their life". I would be more sad for your friends, not so judgemental. Lot's of people choose to make up for a "void" wether it be collecting stamps, seeking social contact - whatever. And if it is true they are having more children to do so - what is the harm in that if they cherish each one of them? With a babe in arms and wanting another it could be many things - maybe their partners are the ones creating the void by being less than what they thought they would be as fathers.
There was an article written recently about partners lack of action in terms of supporting the new family that illustrated the profound effect this can have on a mothers mental health. Could this be the case too?
Maybe they have dreams of a big happy family, maybe, maybe, maybe........
Who knows, but maybe a little more compassion and tolerance if this annoys you, there could be many factors
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