You will be surprised with just how much room in your heart you have for more than 1 child. But I don't ever think that you love each child in exactly the same way, because they are different children and have different qualities, so there are different things to love about them, but the 'sum total' of your love for each child is the same kwim? Like I too have 4 children and while I love each of them with all my heart, each one of them brings light into my soul for different reasons.