Thank you so much ladies!! I really do appreciate your thoughts, advice and reassurance!!! I feel a little more calm and not so knotted up inside (what wasn't helping was MIL has a habit of telling and retelling the same tales over and over again as though she has never said it before - and whilst I know it is with all the best intentions, the story of my DH's aunty losing her 3rd bubby to SIDS in winter....etc, etc.....really isn't the reassurance I need right now! )

So thanks again!! MWA!!!

And the moral of the story is..........layers, layers, layers!!