I know a child like this whose mother is very relaxed. So it probably isn't you. Some children are a little antisocial. Again, very little to do with the mother. I had a child who would ask me to go visit someone - anyone! - in the afternoon because he was very social and I am not so much.

My son used to get very upset about mess. He tidied up after me. He would cry if I spilt something. He refused to join in messy play at nursery. He would have hysterics if his clothes were dirty. This from a vomity, pooey baby! Now he's the one who likes mess, mud, rolling in the dirt and getting all his toys out on the floor to build a toy tower.

Children do change, but if you're very worried about his anxieties see if you can talk to him and find out how he's feeling. Don't feel that giving in to him is a bad thing, but start to introduce him to new things in a controlled environment so he can feel safe while things change.