Which would be better for a 21 mth old

[hj1981]

Go with ur parents! definatly less stressful for you - and her routine might stay the same when she gets home making things easier for you and the new bub!

[Janie]

I totally get where you're coming from, and I would be sending her to your parents place. Obviously it's not ideal, but it's probably the best solution for her (and you ). It's only a few days after all, and although we all know it would be preferable for her to be able to see you each day, she will likely be better off with your parents. And although you will miss her, you won't worry about her!!! The last thing you need while YOU are getting to know your new baby, is to be worrying alot about your DD.

Good luck, can't wait to see the BA

[Marlene]

That really is a hard one! I would lean towards sending her to your parents if they are going to keep her in her routine BUT only you know her personality and how she will handle the separation from you. Something to consider (which I'm sure you have) is whether she is going to feel pushed out of the way to make room for the new baby...I know that is not what you are doing, but will your DD understand that? She may see it as a fun and exciting holiday with you parents...or she may feel like she is being pushed away. The last thing you want when you get home is your DD resenting the itty bitty new family member for stealing her mummy away. Only you know your DD well enough to know which way she will sway

Sorry I wasn't much help, lol, but I am sure you will know what is best for your family

[feeb]

I would send her with your parents as they will follow your rules and you will be less stressed (well apart from stress of not seeing her) BUT this way DH can be with you more.

Good luck

I need to think of these sort of things soon.

[Doing my best]

Thank you all for your advice..

I finally had a chance to talk to DH (as I already spoken to Mum earlier when I packed my DD in the car and took her the water for a destress walk)..

He was totally fine with me sending her to Mum and Dad's.. She is much more relaxed and better behaved even at our place with them. I really believe it is just because she knows my parents, but only gets to see inlaws every 6 months or so..

mbear, all the things you pointed out were the reason that this was so hard. The only other person she will go to sleep for is my Mum if she can't have me or DH. Also DH has never had her on his own at night, and even he isn't sure how much support he would get from his parents while I am away. I will be 2 days without seeing her, so not as tortured as if it was the full 5 days..

I am really going to miss her, but when DH admitted that he was also starting to worry how he would cope, I know this is the right thing to do. Just not sure if he has told them yet that she is going away for a few nights..