You've obviously tried a lot, sounds like you've got a determined little one I use a cot sheet to wrap DS2, i think you'd call what i do the angel wrap but only one arm is in. He will get out of it most of the time but it doesn't really bother him at the age he is. I didn't check but is your LO still quite young? At the age where they don't really have control over what their arms are doing? If that is the case all i could say is it may pass in time and maybe she won't fight the warp so much. Not much help i know but it sounds like you've tried so many different ways of wrapping.

I'm at the stage where DS is 11 months old and i can't get him out of wanting to be wrapped. Even in this warm weather he still won't go sleep unless he is wrapped and tucked in with a blanket on top. He will wriggle out/loosen up throughout the night and that is fine with him but the initial going off to sleep he has to be nice and snug

Hope things sort out for you