WWYD - other people's kids with challenging behaviour

[Beach Mama]

You could also do it by explaining in gentle terms why you have left the kids, as a way to approach her about the behaviour that is affecting your kids - something along the lines of "I know both our DD's get a bit overexcited and hypo when the see each other" and see if that is a lead in for her to talk about it. Sounds like she is already doing a fabulous job and even if you bring it up she wouldn't know what else to do about her DD, and she probably sees it as well?? Not much help sorry Tough one hun, my DD gets super excited with her best friend around who she only sees every 6 mths or so but they just get loud and silly at worst so Im not really much help. xoxo

[Starfish]

Do you have other friends with kids so that you could all catch up in a group? That way there will be more kids to play with so your friend's DD won't be in your DD's face all the time, plus your DD won't feel so put on the spot. Maybe someone who has a boy the same age as your two DDs? While it's hard to tell never having met this child, it could be that she does have developmental issues, or it could be that she is just a rough tomboy and maybe it would be more appropriate for her to play with a less gentle child?

[Novella]

I was going to suggest a group so your children aren't the only ones for her to focus on. Could you suggest a playgroup? In my area there are a couple of community playgroups facillitated by OT's and speech therapists that are open to everyone. This way you could still see your friend, there would be someone facillitating play which may help your ffriend while she is coping with the new bub and they may also have some stratagies for dealing with any unwanted behaviours? It may also open the possibility for more socialising for your friend, even if you don't go all the time

Sounds like you are doing your best to be a great friend xx

[Ginger]

my friend's DD went through a stage like this and tbh, i just didn't want to see her. she especially picked on my younger ds which got me really upset.
i am happy to say that she is completely over it now (she is 4 now) and is nice to them both.