DD is 16 weeks old.
I didn't wake her at 5pm, she woke herself. I was scared about leaving her to sleep for so long during the day but as you have said again, just leave her, so I will from now on.
Last night was a nightmare. She woke herself up from a 1hr 20 min sleep at about 4.20pm, I tried to get her back to sleep, re-wrapped her, cuddled her etc....to no avail so I got her up and let her play under her playgym - she was due for a feed at about 5.30pm but she seemed to be unsettled, so I offered her a bottle at about 5pm and she drank it all. DH then had a shower with her and offered her some more bottle but she didn't take it. She was tired by about 6.20pm so DH cuddled her, then wrapped her and put her to bed. She woke about 7pm and we persisted for about 30mins to get her back to sleep - again re-wrapping her, patting her, cuddling her, sitting in the rocking chair. In the end we bought her out to the lounge where she sat on our knee in darkness - just the t.v on but she showed tired signs, so we tried cuddling her but I think she was overtired and grizzled until I gave her a bottle at about 8.30pm, she only took 90 mls but then I wrapped her and put her straight to bed, again she woke and we tried re-settling her. In the end we put her in bed with us until she fell asleep, which was about 9.30pm and then put her in her cot in her own room and I didn't hear from her until 1.30am, which I then gave her a bottle. She then slept through until about 6am, but was just chatting in her cot, so I left her there. She yelled out at about 6.30am, so I got up but when I got to her room she was alseep (or her eyes were closed) so I left her until 7.30am, which is when she woke again. So far she has slept for 40 mins this morning and I have just put her down again, wrapped and awake and she seems to have drifted off. She protested for a little while but I just come in her room and popped her dummy in and left without saying too much, maybe the odd shhhh or it's ok, night night.
Maybe our re-settling techniques are too overstimulating? Could this be the case? It seems that if we go in and pat her or stroke her head she gets worse.