I do go to mothers group. But, they are all in their very late 20s to late 30s. My sister is the only other young mum I know, she was 20 when she gave birth to her first (born sleeping at 20 weeks) and then 21 when my niece was born. But she is moving to New Zealand this week.
Its a tiny country town.
Getting to mothers group is hard, as DD usually goes to bed for her nap at 9.30am and MG starts at 10am.
lol, the only week she was up and ready to go - it wasn't on!!! :-)
I was 17 when I fell pregnant with my first but he sadly passed away 10 days before my 18th birthday. I fell pregnant with my daughter at 19 and was only with the bloke a month before I knew something was not right. I have now a beautiful 2 year old little girl and another girl on the way who is due just after my 23rd birthday. Most of my friends disappeared after I had my daughter cause they wanted to go out and party and get drunk. This time they are all pregnant too and my best mate is due on the same day as me. Understand completely where you are coming from
Issues for Younger Couples
Here is the section for Younger Couples/Mums It gets pretty quiet in there, so come and join on in! I'm another sorta-young mum - fell pg with DD1 at the age of 20, after having been with my now-DH for only a month (we were actually trying, believe it or not... just knew in our hearts it was right for us!). I'm turning 25 next week but am still definitely young at heart, and also find it tough to relate to other mums because most people I know who have kids are either much older, or have a very different mind-set and lifestyle than we do. It can be really disheartening to be juggling motherhood and a 'normal' social life, especially when most of your friends are at different stages of their lives and can't identify with what you're going through.
I'm always here and happy to chat and listen! Gotta dash off atm (grr, kids making a godawful mess and there never seems to be a lack of laundry to hang out!) but I'm always popping in and out so I'll be back soon Big hugs hun, I can definitely relate to how you're feeling, the down days are just the WORST. Hope you're feeling better soon - just remember, you're a fantastic mum and there will come a day when the mates who are neglecting you now, suddenly understand what you're going through and I know they will feel bad for not being there for you when you needed them. Hang in there, you're definitely not alone. xxx
another young mum here (sorta) i fell pg with DS just after i turned 20. i understand, it sucks sometimes, especially the awkwardness that comes when people assume DS was an unwanted accident.
im happy to chat as well or u can add me on FB im generally floating around here or there!
big hugs hun, it does get easier.
xo
Yep i'm another young mumma I was 2 weeks off my 21st when i found out i was pregnant. We had tried TTC when i was 17/18 but was unsucessful so then decided to then go with fate. I was 19 when i found why i couldnt concieve and started on medication and we actually planned to TTC in april last year but someone else had another idea but i wouldnt have it any other way.
ETA - we had been together since i was 15
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Hi, i'm another young mum I'm 22, fell pg with DS at 18, and i'd been with DF for 4 months. (AND he was my first, and we'd only been having sex for 6 weeks when DS was concieved ) I'm now pg again I understand it is lonely, and isolating I live all the way up in queensland otherwise i would insist on a catch up lol.
lots of love xxxxxxxxxx
Its more where you are in your life at the time. I got pregnant at 24, was single, and NOBODY I knew in my own social circles was even vaguely thinking about getting pregnant. The few who were were wives of bosses and supervisors, having kids at 29-35, and I couldn't relate to them at all.
Wasn't much fun at the time, wish I'd have known that in advance.
Now I've just had kids at 32 and 34 it seems everyone else my age is madly having babies, the complete opposite of 12 years ago.
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It gets pretty quiet in there, so come and join on in! I'm another sorta-young mum - fell pg with DD1 at the age of 20, after having been with my now-DH for only a month (we were actually trying, believe it or not... just knew in our hearts it was right for us!). I'm turning 25 next week but am still definitely young at heart, and also find it tough to relate to other mums because most people I know who have kids are either much older, or have a very different mind-set and lifestyle than we do. It can be really disheartening to be juggling motherhood and a 'normal' social life, especially when most of your friends are at different stages of their lives and can't identify with what you're going through.
Big hugs hun, I can definitely relate to how you're feeling, the down days are just the WORST. Hope you're feeling better soon - just remember, you're a fantastic mum and there will come a day when the mates who are neglecting you now, suddenly understand what you're going through and I know they will feel bad for not being there for you when you needed them. Hang in there, you're definitely not alone. xxx
I'm 22, fell pg with DS at 18, and i'd been with DF for 4 months. (AND he was my first, and we'd only been having sex for 6 weeks when DS was concieved
) I'm now pg again
I live all the way up in queensland otherwise i would insist on a catch up lol.
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