14month old constantly winging

[1pj]

I know this will sound awful but its getting so bad I feel I need help,my 14month old never seems happy anymore I cant explain it I feel unless shes entertained constantly she just winges and I'm worried Ive done this to her somehow.I take her out shopping in the stroller and after like 3o mins she starts winging so i offer her food and things to try distract and keep her happy,i feel I cant do anything or go anywhere lately because all she does is winge,shes a very active child and always seems to be on the go even if I put her in her high chair she winges its like shes getting all impatient or something,i mean shes a real character and a lovely child not angry or anything really she just winges alot!!most days I feel i stress soon as shes awake because I dread her following me and winging I do think its gotten worse lately and do feel shes getting more teeth but is this just a stage or do I just have achild that gets bored easily?I just dont know what to do because now i'm starting to get impateint with her and trying to think of things to keep her happy and occupied its like my life has gone at the moment and its awful!Not sure if others out there with the same thing happening or any advice,its really getting me down yet I wanted a baby for so many years I feel such a bad mother as lately im not enjoying her much

[Shanti]

Don't worry you are NOT alone!! My little 14mth old baby girl is doing the same thing, she's been rather clingy and whingy lately and although she has been sick the last week (we had gastro very badly at our house) the poor thing is still not that 100% just yet. But yes they get bored really easily. I think it's just a stage.... it will pass. Just remember the motto every mother should live by "this too shall pass" hehe

you're doing a great job - we all are .... when my DD is like this, I try to remember that one day she will be older and won't want to be around me so I try to make the most of it but it's hard some days hey.

[Sterla]

PJ

Sorry, no advice. But you are NOT a bad mum, not at all - it's just all part of being a mum, we have good periods and bad periods. I hope things start to look up soon!

[~Kim~]

PJ - nope you def are not alone.
Think I had blocked this stage out from DD, but DS is just unreal!
I'm going with the stage thing too...gotta be a light at the end

[chickenlittle]

Mine were, and still are at times, whingers too.

I remind my 3yo constantly when she whinges "talk to me in a normal voice please" "is that your normal voice or your yucky voice?" "is that the way to ask or is there a better way, without whinging, and in a normal voice?" etc etc

It works in the moment then she'lll forget again... but I'm trying to be consistent so she learns the right way to speak to me and others.

I think its very very common though. We just try not to give in to her requests if she's whinging for them, and reward her when she speaks properly and nicely.

[Butterfly Child]

Ohh hun i hear u my dd's 14 months too it must be a stage hopefully! it is horrible i know, ive been trying to distract dd when it starts. doesnt help with the new teeth coming through either.. hopefully we both can get through this stage lol

if u ever need a chat or vent pm me hun xx

[Miss.September]

Hugs hon, you are not a bad mum!!!! My DD is 13 months, so I'm sure this is coming up to me too, but she has her days! She's definately protesting against the word "NO" right now!

Corelly x

[Butterfly Child]

Awww corelly im with u there!!

Im having big issues with getting NO across to dd too

[curly173]

I know that Im late reading this, but my 14 month old did exactly the same thing for about 3 weeks and it was just SO tiresome. He shrieked and whined ALL day and he wouldn't even let me hug him. Then it got remarkably worse - then one day, pop a molar tooth plus a change of sleep cycle - turns out he wanted to go from 2 to 1 sleep per day. It was HELL and then it got better. Stay strong, it will pass.

[Junglemum]

14 months is such a difficult age for kids i reckon. They are old enough to know what they want and what they don't want but haven't quite got the communication skills. The result is generally a lot of whinging! My 14 month old is doing exactly the same thing. It was about this age that i started using a bit of sign language with DD1, we just used a few basic things like food, drink, nappy change and finished. That way i was helping her to communicate and she didn't need to whinge as much to get her point across. I've just started with DD2.

All kids whinge, but with my 2 i find this age particularly, involves a lot of whinging! It will get better.

[Mrs Jak]

Ohhhh, this is just like my nearly 14 month old and it's been a shock to the system, as our first was and is such an easy child...

I was a bit worried about it too, but now thanks to your posts I feel better!

Mine is not walking yet, so may be adding to his frustration?

[1pj]

thanks for all the replys i feel heaps better and actually shes been quite good lately i cant believe it!!!

Mrs Jak-Mines not walking either and i really feel that adds to her boredom/frustration!!

[black_rose]

It's definetly the age not being able to walk or talk so they get frustrated, dd2 is just starting. But if o can work out what she is after she calms down. I think having am older sister helps she distracts her slot.

[AliBaby]

I could have written the same thing! I am feeling the exact same way as you as I am finding it so draining and was wondering if I had made her this way by giving in to her at times.

Good to hear she is getting and that unfortunately there are lots of other 14mth old doing the same thing

[zwan87]

wow thank you so much for your post and all the replys my 14mnth old is exactly the same it feels great to know its a stage