2.5y.o DS not adjsting to new baby... & NOT sleeping

[LucaJack'sMum]

Yup its hard - I think it was fine for the first few weeks - hell hit around 6 weeks on and then it just got better.

DS still mucks up at bedtime if we give him a nap during the day. Other days if he doesn't have a nap - he is sooooo exhausted he just crashes. We like that, its good.. LOL

No solutions here I'm afraid - but it does get better.

Thanks Arimeh, we have the same situation... if he has no day sleep he is generally better at going down, but i am not ready to give up the day sleep yet!!!! LOL!!!!

[Mak]

Arggh - such hard work!!!

Similar story here - the baby slept here really well but not Miss 2.5!!! - it is so hard to manage the anxst of the toddler and look after a newborn - let alone yourself.

I had some great advice from a friend - she suggested we create a new bedtime ritual with myself and DD1 (who was ridiculously clingy and quite violent towards DD2 initially). No matter what we had 'special mummy and x time' and we jumped in bed and talked about how much I loved her still and that I wasn't leaving here - this was to try and get her inner dialogue going each time she felt left out and unhappy. The idea was that this 'special time' could then be used to describe times I was dedicating to her when bubs was asleep also. I was sceptical but it really has helped her calm down and be more positive about her new sister.

As time has passed it also has gotten easier though - I think she just needed time to process all the changes....

Take care - it will pass ....