[QUOTE=PinkPalace;1872818]LaDYz - I DONT get it - if i am in her room it takes her ages to go to sleep - if DH is in here she will fall asleep in 15 mins.....

My DD will go to sleep for DH and plays me as she knows I am soft and give in..

But we have recently been seeking help with some sleep matters cause I don't think I am going to cope on my own when the new baby comes along (DH is a shift worker and not always at home when it is bedtime).

We were told to sit with her and every time she lifted her head in an attempt to get up, push her back down (not roughly or anything, but strong enought that she can't fight it) while sternly saying 'lie down'.. This has been working and has reduced our settling time from an hour plus to no more than 15 mins in the past week (so far so good, ).. I just sit beside the bed cause I don't want to pat her to sleep as that just adds another sleep association to break and she feels reassured that I am there, and she goes to sleep.