It's a developmental thing. Kids that age are still developing logical thinking and reasoning skills, and don't have the ability (or the words) to really explain things such as feelings or their own behaviour. It will come
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It's a developmental thing. Kids that age are still developing logical thinking and reasoning skills, and don't have the ability (or the words) to really explain things such as feelings or their own behaviour. It will come
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DS is also a great communicator, but still has issues explaining himself at times. It's a sloooow process I think. Just keep giving him language, he'll eveutally start using those tools himself (i hope!). I prompt with suggestions - DS is pretty good about denying or agreeing - yes I'm disappointed, or no, I'm not angry. Though he's as likely to deny just for the sake of being contradictory, i find that he'll later use that language to explain himself so it kinda gets through... sort of...
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thankyou all. It's nice to know I am on the right track mostly and will definitely be trying and be patient with me.
What is getting me the most at the moment is the whinging and changing his mind!! arghh
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thankyou all. It's nice to know that it is a phase and that I am mostly on the right track. Will try and be a bit more patient with him and help him with his language more.
What is getting me the most at the moment is the whinging and changing his mind!! arghh
Last edited by kelebek; August 6th, 2011 at 09:42 PM. : didn't make sense
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I never answered DS's "why"s with "because" - I always gave a full explanation. At age 3.5, he could come up with his own reasoning. He makes up stories to explain things to hmself happily. I never let him use just "because" either - had to be a full explanation! I'd been doing it for long enough.
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+1 to that.
It's a developmental thing. Kids that age are still developing logical thinking and reasoning skills, and don't have the ability (or the words) to really explain things such as feelings or their own behaviour. It will come
I remember DS being 3ish (he was in 3yo kinder) and my having no idea what was wrong with him when he felt sick because he couldn't tell me.
He managed to say his tummy hurt once and I said what does it feel like? "Chocolate".
It will come with time.
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You may find if you lead by example some of the feeling stuff will come too. Im an emotional person so if I am happy, sad, stressed, angry etc and ds can see and has taken note of my change in behaviour I explain to him that "Mummy is feeling sad because..." or "Mummy is frustrated because of...". I never relised the effect such could have until one day I asked him what the matter was and he said that he felt sad because of something or other...
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I have an A4 piece of paper which has a LOT of different faces on it, showing different emotions. That is something that they can start to use they say from around 2 years old to help them express the emotions. They understand the faces more than the "label" for the emotion. I can scan it and email it to you if you like
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I'm afraid you are asking too much from your little one you will get it only when he is ready. Don't get frustrated he has quite progressed for his age and you should be happy with that.
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