I had a very independent 16mth old when DS was born. I wasn't too worried about how she would react but I was worried about how I would cope with 2 under 2, on my own. I got a bit terrified at the thought of when DH went back to work. He's self-employed and DS was born on a Thursday, so I got Thur-Fri-Sat-Sun and then he was back to work.

Fortunately I had a very supportive mother and sister come around for most of that week and help out. Sister's kids amused my 16mth old and mum did some cleaning and cooking for me.

BUT - this is the important part - I was not as tired with my second. In part because I had a shorter labour (6hrs with DS compared to the 40 with DD...) but I just didn't feel the need to go to bed every night at 7pm like I did for the first few weeks/months of DD's life. There was too much to do, see, feel, think...

It was almost like being mum to one had prepared me for being mum to two. You just get things done.

And if you have any bf issues - call the ABA. Sooner rather than later! They will help.

I also have to agree with SB - my DS has grown up a lot quicker than my DD but it so lovely now seeing them interact, well most of the time anyway!

I know this will sound trite, but it is true - in a few short months, you will be struggling to remember what it was like when it was just the three of you