Oh hun, big hugs You've worked some of it out yourself. It is so hard not to compare our kids to others, but we do. It's some sort of stupid natural in built thing.
FWIW, my niece did the headbutting floor thing and she was born at 41+3 at 9lbs. My DD has bitten herself in frustration and she was born at 39+5, 8lbs. The behaviour scared my sister and me respectively, but we handled it the same - ignored, or tried to diffuse. My DD was older when she tried to bite herself - I gently held her arm and said "Don't do that. Are you frustrated? Tell mummy you are frustrated, use your words." But she is 3.5, so it is a bit different.
When they were younger, and my DS is 20mths and still hits things, I say "No! Gentle! Keep your hands to yourself!" which seems to work. I can reason with DD now she is older.
FWI also W, DD had a massive word explosion around 18mths and was using sentences by 2. There are so many ranges of normal!!
She is fine. I promise. I often read things she does in Baby Buddies and can't believe she's a prem who had a tough start. She's actually doing awesome.
Niece can say her name because it's a bloody easy name. "sing-sy" is pretty good for <18 months. Being aware of poo is good too. Tantrums are developmentally normal. Including headbutting. Annoying, but normal.
And she is little. Sure. That's just a reminder of how amazing she is. Just makes it all the more incredible that she's caught up in so many other areas.
She sounds perfectly normal to me
Just try to stop comparing her. You don't need to compare, she's perfect.
Everything she's doing is just what babies do, she's testing her boundaries, totally normal.
C, I'm sorry this is such a worry for you It must be extra stressful when you compare her - she had such a different start to everyone else.
Honestly, she sounds pretty normal to me. I agree with Audax.
Language-wise, she's probably ahead of my son at the same age.
The tantrums etc, that's quite normal, especially if she's feeling frustrated about things. Have you tried sign language at all? It can help bridge the gap till they're able to talk more.
Try to give yourself a break, if you can. Sometimes being a mother and being a housewife are two mutually exclusive activities.
You've worked some of it out yourself. It is so hard not to compare our kids to others, but we do. It's some sort of stupid natural in built thing.
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