Ooooh I am SO there with you! Does she have something 'forbidden' that she absolutely LOVES but doesn't get very often?? My DS has a few of those things, one is the tube of bum butter, another is the red rubber lid cap thingy from his Take & Toss Cups (that probably made NO sense at all, so just take my word for it hehe) and when we lay him down and he starts cracking a fuss, we give him one of these and my gosh the happiness on his face! He would let us happily change 10 nappies while he lies there playing with his 'forbidden' something.. It's obviously not a long term fix, I am sure he will get over them sometime but for now, makes nappy changes ALOT easier and hopefully by the time he is finished with being fascinated byt them we're into Pull Ups or something?

DS also HATES being put on the change table after his bath to be dressed for bed, so we always save a quarter of his dinner bottle for this time and while we're moisturising him, popping a nappy on and doing up his buttons, he is drinking his bottle...

Not sure if I have helped with anything, you've probably tried everything so I'll send you a big hit of LUCK as well! I know how frustrating it can be when even a 1 minute job takes 10 and is such an ordeal! I hope it gets better soon hun! xx