Firstly we always knew how many kids we wanted, I think that helps. It was just a matter of when, for us we have looked at what both our parents are doing with kids grown up etc & we decided we wanted kids early....I was pregnant a few months after getting married. Though having DS was a bit of a reality check & for the first 12months I couldn't stomach the thought of another child LOL...then he got sick so he was our 100% focus for that time. Then well I guess it just happened, DS got much better....we knew we wanted another to complete our family & had to "bite the bullet" so to speak at some stage. Then we talked about age gaps, I didn't want to leave it too much longer as then I would be waking arvo naps for school pick ups etc & I want to be able to still go to things that both will enjoy together. Other issue was what if it took longer that we thought & it actually did take us 7months of trying.....so there will be nearly 3yrs between DS & our next bubs.

It will be what it will be. If you are happy with 1, don't let anyone else tell you what you "have" to do. But if you do want another then perhaps just have a chat about what works for you. FWIW I am very scared about going from 1 to 2 but very excited at the same time!!!