Leash, I don't think it matters what other people do. If you're not happy with how things are, then you and Shel need to talk and work something out. How about you get a weekend lie in? (where Shel brings bub to you, you feed, and then Shel takes bub while you go back to sleep) Or express for weekends so you can sleep through one feed?

My partner would get up, grab bub, sleep while I fed, then take bub back, change him and put him to bed. He probably didn't help as much with our first, but that's cos I could nap during the day with only one baby. I can't now, and things are very equal this time around.

That's just how our relationship works though, through discussion and negotiation. Other people's relationships and arrangements work differently. You have to figure out what works for you guys, what you both can be happy with.