do u talk to your kids about the behaviours you want and dont want?

[sue1386]

thanks so much. that was all very helpful

today she and her husband were much better telling her daughter not to come out the front door
telling her daughter to talk to me nicely and apologise to me
it still could be much better them preparing their kids to listen to me , and maybe promising a prize if they do
the daughter wasnt around much today and its really her that is the greatest challenge by far.

[~Kim~]

Glad you've gotten some progress hun.
We think children are influenced the most by positive role models, but TBH I reckon adults are just the same.

[~*familyof3*~]

Im like you.I run through things when i drop DS2 at school eg i say" hands and feet?" He says "to myself" i say "what choice's do we make?" he will say "Good choice's". I also pre-warm my boys when were going out. I let them know what is expected and what will happen if they do do that. I think its great to pre-pair a child.

[sue1386]

when a child is asking why why why what what what all day for every single little things probably because they are bored and its just driving you nutes its not learning or inquisitiveness its just boredeom and exhausting,
but you are in a home that doesnt allow dvds

what do you do ?!

[LimeSlice]

when a child is asking why why why what what what all day for every single little things probably because they are bored and its just driving you nutes its not learning or inquisitiveness its just boredeom and exhausting,
but you are in a home that doesnt allow dvds

what do you do ?!

Umm... answer their questions. How old is the child?

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I tend to find out why DS wants to know why. It's usually boredom. We can do an investigation around his "why". Let him find out "why" by himself. Liebling doesn't really do "why?" though, he started it so I would give him a half-hour degree-level answer and/or run-through of my risk assessment for him. He knows it's a good way of getting my attention!

FWIW, we don't bother with TV most days. Sure it can be useful at 4am when I want to sleep a bit longer. But it's always more hassle than it's worth as DS gets cross if the wrong episode is on the DVD or he won't leave the house when I need to go out. We do a lot more music: either we play the piano, or I play as DS sings along and dances, or we both sing and dance together. Best distraction ever and good exercise for me.

(And yes, this is the child who decided tonight's conversation would be "do we eat..." naming fish, pizza, pasta, chocolate, bananas, apples, bread, water, milk, cheese... poo, wee, a trump, the bin and rubbish. Finding that we can't eat the bin was nearly had him in hysterics.)

[sue1386]

there is a normal level ofchildren asking why and whats that need to be answered and there is a bored level of constnatly asking because they are bored, that is just constnat and nagging and draining. it is not inquisitiveness. different people work differently but i personally find when a dvd is in the background then we still play chat read but at a pace that more easily allows me to also do housework, attend to baby, without a child constnatly asking why what why why why about every single thing just out of boredom. some home have dvds and some dont each parent does what they find best for their family.