I did it much earlier than my friends who went on to have terrible troubles. I recomend sooner rather than later.
I do the whole routine: tea, play, bath, book, bottle, cuddle, goodnight everyone, bed. I always rub her tum a few times and say they same thing "good night darling, have a good sleep" then turn and walk out without looking back.
If we are out in the evening we still do bottle, cuddle, goodnight everyone, bed. That seems to be enough.
Sometimes there are nights when DD is teething or overtired and gets upset with the idea. She will stand up in her cot before I even get out the room, there are tears and pleading to be picked up. I just stay calm, lay her down repeatedly till she stays there long enough to do the tummy rub and say my line. I have had nights when I've done it 20 times before she gives in. The key is to be consistant and calm. The calm bit I learned from experience on bad nights when I got cranky: it was much worse.
Hope things improve quickly for you!!!! let us know how you go.
sooner than later is the best option
it only turns into a nightmare as they get older whinge it out call it what you like (controlled crying) it does work thats why all the sleeping schools use the same method its the old saying sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind, not thats its cruel anyway it works
CIO and letting a bub grizzle is totaaaaalllly different!
I had many friends and a few AP'ers who heard DS grizzle when I put him down, I would shoosh him and stroke his head (he was fully wrapped, plugged and classical mobile playing) and walk out when he was quiet. He would grizzle 2 minutes at the most, unless it was a "bad day" and then I'd go back in and do it all again. If he was obviously upset I'd pick him up and rock him till he settled (not asleep) then put him back in the cot and try again. The thing is I tried cuddle/rock/hold/feed to sleep and it went on for 3 hours, with the settle to sleep (as I like to call it rather than Whinge it out ) he would be asleep in at most 25 mins at least 5 mins. Every baby is different, some babies NEED close attachment, some babies need their own space. My very close gf had a wee lad who needed cuddles and rocks and everything, and now she has a wee lass who has practically put herself to sleep bar a few whinges and bad nights since she was born.
The most important thing IMO for a child younger than 8 months is for them to know that they are secure and that you are there for them when they need you. Once they are reassured of this in most cases they are ok I say most coz I know quite a few bubbies who don't sleep well till 2 and up. And you know your child, their cues and what they need.
Thanks everyone for you support and information, i tried it tonight and so far so good, i gave him a BF we had a snuggle on the couch took him in to bed laid him down gave him his wrap and dummy and a kiss stroked his forehead a few times told him I loved him and to sleep well and i walked out. As i expected he started to cry but not as bad as i thought he would he cried for about 10 mins at one point i was going to back in and he started to slow down and get quieter but within ten minutes he was alseep, so fingers crossed it will improve.
Can anyone tell me was the second night worse because bub knew what was happening?
So glad for you Kimmy, that is fantastic! It is such a beautiful thing when you can help them settle reasonably calmly and it sounds like you got it exactly right tonight.
With regards to your question, as Niliac said, each child is different. I love the post that Niliac wrote earlier, she has explained things really really well . For us it got easier each night as DD seemed to realise what was going on and went with it however some babies certainly will try to fight it and may make things more challenging as they work it out. (You can try to look on the bright side.... this means that you have a bright spark of a DS if he has worked out what is happening!!)
Ok so last night when he first went to sleep must have been a fluke! He woke at 2.30 finally resettled at 3.45 am after many up and downs from me and so much crying from me, had a massive argument with DH in the middle of it all as he was telling me just to make him sleep so DH could sleep for work, this is after we agreed we would do this knowing how hard it might be GRRRR! Then he woke at 4.30 and cried again until 6am when he normally has a feed so i got him to stop crying in his cot once he was calm i picked him up and did our normal mornign routine of in bed for a cuddle and a feed beofre getting up. At the moment he is in is room crying and whinging cos i have left him in there, i am going in when he really starts to lose it (and when i do too) but he is has been in bed for forty minutes and is still going, someone please reassure me it will get better, i am so close to giving up but i know i have to be consistent but it so so hard please help!
Aw Kim, I'm so sorry. It's such a hard thing to do!
I did CC with my DD when she was only about 7-8 months old. I felt I didn't have a choice. It was really hard but it did work for my DD. (It doesn't work for all kids, I'll freely admit, and I wouldn't ever push it on anyone as something they should do with their kids. I hope I won't have to do it with my next one!)
You are right, the key is consistency. Even if you are dog-tired, even if you are upset by the crying/whinging. You just do it the same way each time, in a way that you feel comfortable with. (Whether that be to stay there the whole time, or leave them be for a while or whatever.) Do it for a couple of weeks before you decide if it is working for you. (Unless of course you are finding it too tough and would prefer things the way they were - no one's forcing you to do anything.)
For us, it took about a week or less for things to dramatically improve. However, I can't say that she slept through the night every night thereafter. We had periods when she'd wake overnight and I dealt with them differently at each stage. I just responded however I was comfortable.
But to answer your question, it should get better within a couple of weeks. If it doesn't get better in that time, then it probably won't. And then you look at your options again.
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) he would be asleep in at most 25 mins at least 5 mins. Every baby is different, some babies NEED close attachment, some babies need their own space. My very close gf had a wee lad who needed cuddles and rocks and everything, and now she has a wee lass who has practically put herself to sleep bar a few whinges and bad nights since she was born.
I say most coz I know quite a few bubbies who don't sleep well till 2 and up. And you know your child, their cues and what they need.
I hope for your sake he's "trained" then 
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