Awesome thoughts and experiences - thanks so much.
Well after last night having to settle her with my finger twice for an hour I got DH to go first thing and get her a dummy from the chemist and she has taken to it like a pro. Only problem is as she starts to fall asleep it falls from her mouth and she wakes herself up crying looking for it . So while she was much calmer falling to sleep it still took a long long time. Time will tell I guess on how this goes.

Marcellus, Seph, I too think it is unattractive but we got a clear one. I think I will have to use the dummy emoticon now too...

Being a parent I am already challenging all the previous 'I will never...' statements I made - dummies being a big one of them