Thanks girls. If I say something with a friendly tone along the lines of "your bub has all their shots now so there's no need for either of us to worry" I hope I'll get a better reception and perhaps I can say something like "we've researched this topic for years and in both of our professions have seen somecases which made us question vaccination. With what we have found we decided not to vaccinate with medical drugs as we are not happy with what some of the side effects can be" But even saying this is tricky as I don't want the people I'm talking to thinking that 'they' have done the wrong thing with 'their' babies kwim. There is such a fine balance in not offending them, making my position known and relieving some of their ''fears'. I guess at the end of the day they will just need to get over it and I will have to hold my head high in my beliefs. If they don't want to be around DS It's really no different to me wanting to move away from someone who has just had a swine flu shot
An example of the not offending people thing or saying things that can upset them is my parents. They were telling me that my brothers kids arent' vaccinated as their mum coulnd't be bothered doing it and i told them that DS wasn't vaccinated. They did actually want to know why which is a nice change but when I was telling them a whole bunch of reasons I mentioned SIDS then realised that I may have really upset them. They lost a baby at 6 months perhaps I should have left that one out, but hey they did want to know all of our reasons. I guess I'm not going to know what has gone on in other peoples life to know what will strike a nerve with them. Another example is Autisum, I could tell someone that is a side effect I'm not willing to risk and if they have a child with autisum then I don't want them feeling like it's their fault I don't mind telling people my reasons if they really do want to know but it's so different to telling someone who is asking and JUDGING you at the same time and basicaly demanding a reason for your choice.
I don't think you really need to justify yourself. You can always turn the question around and ask why they are vaccinating...
We do vax, but not 100%. The nurse asked why and I just said we decided not to get those ones. And that was that.
I know first time round we got everything with DS and the truth was, I just hadn't thought about it enough to actually make a decision, so I just went along with the schedule. I assume if someone doesn't vax (or only partially) then they have obviously thought about it and come to a conscious decision.
I hope I'll get a better reception and perhaps I can say something like "we've researched this topic for years and in both of our professions have seen somecases which made us question vaccination. With what we have found we decided not to vaccinate with medical drugs as we are not happy with what some of the side effects can be" But even saying this is tricky as I don't want the people I'm talking to thinking that 'they' have done the wrong thing with 'their' babies kwim. There is such a fine balance in not offending them, making my position known and relieving some of their ''fears'. I guess at the end of the day they will just need to get over it and I will have to hold my head high in my beliefs. If they don't want to be around DS It's really no different to me wanting to move away from someone who has just had a swine flu shot
perhaps I should have left that one out, but hey they did want to know all of our reasons. I guess I'm not going to know what has gone on in other peoples life to know what will strike a nerve with them. Another example is Autisum, I could tell someone that is a side effect I'm not willing to risk and if they have a child with autisum then I don't want them feeling like it's their fault
I don't mind telling people my reasons if they really do want to know but it's so different to telling someone who is asking and JUDGING you at the same time and basicaly demanding a reason for your choice.
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