put a wrap on the floor (or a sheet) fold the top edge down about 4 inch (more if you need to), lay her on the wrap with shoulders onthe fold line, slip her hands/arms up and under the fold, the wrap across her as normal, that way when shes wrapped her hands are near her face, not straight down beside her (hope all that makes sense its hard to explain lol ) oh and use a large wrap
This is how we used to have to wrap Miss J because she hated it with her arms by her side, worked well for us for ages (we used a cot sheet) then Miss S comes along and decides that she likes it better with her arms by her side LOL