Now I feel like a crap mum...dd when she was younger had awful black rings under her eyes and she was also a terrible eater i just thought she was not getting enough sleep...oh well she has made it to 4 so obviously i did something right..lol..

I jave not read through all the posts but my ds is a very fussy eater and will not eat meet actually he wont eat anything unles sit is blended i feel awful that i am blending my 18 months old food still but i figure better blended like mush rather then him not eating, so maybe that is worth ago for you...
and remember you are not a crap mum it is not like you are delibratly not giving your ds food there is only so much we as mums can do we can't force them to eat...trust me on that i have trie dit and well it did not work just caused lots of tears for ds and me and a very big mess afterwards gbh to you

Well i'll shove my hand up for crap mum awards Ryan still at 2 and a half won't eat veggies unless it is puree'd baby food and i mean tinned baby food i have tried blending home cooked veggies but he knows they aren't the same and refused to eat them he will eat snags but won't eat any other cooked meat but loves deli meats we tried him with a cob of corn and he threw it across the table he has incremin daily becasue he would live on milk if we let him he still has a night bottle for going to bed and he sucks it down in minutes and wants a refill then throws tanty's when there is a NO to his request and now give him a bottle of water we struggle each day to get adequate amounts of food into him and becasue of this he goes to bed with an empty tummy or partially empty and wakes several times through the night it is frustrating to say the least so i'm right there with you and i'm feeling your pain hang in there and maybe a his next check up mention your concerns then or maybe even a referal for a pead good luck with it all