Maybe she has sensitive hearing and it 'hurts' her ears. It may not be the argumentitive yelling but loud noises in general. How is she with other loud noises? Maybe you could get her hearing tested.
I was going to say the same thing. Perhaps she has a sensitivity to loud noises, not neccessarily the arguments or tone of voice. What if you are loud because you are happy/excited? It is quite common for little ones to have problems of one sort or another with their ears so maybe get it checked out?
I am guilty of "flying off the handle" and raise my voice more than required. Just tonight I noticed DD looking at my face while I was "talking" to dh in another room. She was just assessing my expressions to see if it was anything to be concerned about and then she happily went on with her play. We often raise our voices when trying to make ourselves understood but we rarely have a full-on argument, expecially in front of her.
She's probably just sensitive and feels scared by what she sees as conflict. I was (am) like that!
Obviously you want to protect her from it as much as you can, but you also want to teach her coping skills. After all, conflict (whether perceived or actual) is a part of life. Maybe when it happens, you guys can sit down and talk with her and let her know everything is ok with mummy and daddy. I'm sure you do that already!
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