Tantrums at 15 months? Is this normal?

[peanutter]

Yes - absolutely normal. DS started around 15 months too and is just starting to get better now (coming up on 18 months).

I think a big part of it is frustration over not being able to communicate - he has definite needs now and definite WANTS, but he can't verbalise them. Since he discovered some more words (drink, grape, toast, cereal) it is getting better - but he still gets frustrated when he doesn't get his own way.

It's tough. Hang in there.

what she said.



it will improve ...

[[M]umma[M]ia]

Yep, normal. Theres nothing wrong with him. If anything, he is quite advanced. Ide gladly sawp him for my attitude filled, door slaming 3 year old any day

[Cherished]

Thanks for all your replies. I have had some more feedback from dh. He said that when he is doing something like pulling one of the blinds up that ds just has to go over and pull up the others, like a compolsion. But again I think this is just normal! He want's to show us that he knows how to do it and that he remembers that when one blind usually gets pulled up then they all do. Another example is that dh usually takes ds with him to put the bins out on bin days. The last bin day was not a recycle bin day so they only took one bin out and ds chucked a massive tantrum because they weren't taking the recycle bin out the front. I'm glad it's nothing out of the ordinary, hopefully he'll turn back into a beautiful little munchkin when I am back on my feet and getting him out of the house everyday on a proper outing IN the mean time this behaviour isn't helping me to change dh's mind about having another baby

[Sunny Love]

I think your DS is copying daddy right now, he's see's daddy doing a 'good' thing successfully and with capability and wants to imitate. I can't stress how important language (lots and lots of it!!) is in developing your DS' understanding into these activities and responsibilities, eg, 'are you pulling up the blinds too? wow! you're very clever! WE have yo be careful, see like this (demonstrates careful manouvere for the blinds), see all done, *clap**clap**pat on the back*, lets go do ...... now'. I also see this as a stepping stone to him becoming more independent, autonomous and helpful, and who wouldn't want those things for child However, it can be very frustrating and hard work when LO's are headstrong and WANT to do more. It's still being helpful, but requires that language to explain that 'that bin is for next time, we only put one bin out today, here come help me pull this weed/smell this flower'. Distraction will be your best mate, it is mine anyway!
It also requires support, and in that I mean bringing the adult back to reality when they get to that point of being 'over it', and we all go there (my DH is frequently in this place!!). Your DS is only helping and trying to be invloved, he is very clever and is learning how to do it on his own.

I hope my post makes sense, you know me pretty well now anyway and know what I mean (even though we're different-we do get each other), keep surfing the toddler wave hun and dishing out those patient lentils to DH haha! Couldn't help it!
xx

[~StarBright~]

Yep, totally normal!!!! OP is right on the money too about the frustration with the communication!!! DD is now just on 18 months and she is learning more words, but still has the odd tantie when she cant say what she wants or if something isnt exactly the way she wants it!! hang in there.. it MAY get worse before it gets better!!!!!!