persistent morning tears

[peanutter]

Ok, DS is now 10 months old, and for the last few months, basically every single morning when I or DH goes to get him up in the morning, he cries.

Whether he is woken by us or he wakes up by himself in his cot, he cries. And he doesn't stop when you pick him up, bounce him around, sing to him, etc. He will stop if you feed him, or sometimes after playing for a while, or driving in the car for a few minutes (to take me to the station).

Is this normal?

How do I help?

I just hate to think that he starts each day miserable! (though frankly, some mornings when my alarm goes off I feel like crying too :P)

[Cocolove]

My DS is 2 this weekend and he does the same thing it drives me insane, it takes about 15 minutes before he is over it & like your son will stop when i make his breakfast most of the time but often he will be grizzly until his morning sleep at 11, even if he slept all night!

[Heaven]

Have you tried leaving him for a bit? I don't mean CC at all. It's just my DD does the same thing a lot of the time and now that she's in her own bed I have worked it out. If I just leave her and wait for her to come out herself she's much happier. But if I go in and get her out she's cranky and cries like you described. I figure she just needs a bit of time to wake up properly and I was interrupting that by going to get her. So maybe wait a bit longer before going in and see if he settles down?? HTH

[peanutter]

heaven - I know what you mean, but no - this happens whether he wakes up of his own accord, or if we get him up ...

also, we can't really leave him to wake himself up every morning, because I have to get to the train station for work by a certain time, so we leave him as long as we can if he's still asleep, but if he hasn't woken up, we just have to get him up and into the car. we always do lots of cuddles and kisses, though

[peanutter]

any more ideas?

TIA

[Heaven]

Oh bummer! Sorry, I don't have any more ideas then! I don't know how to stop DD crying if she wakes up in one of those moods

[starangelk]

Oh nutter, it's difficult isn't it. My DD has become a bit like this too but it isn't every morning. We used to wake her but her body clock is now set to our routine so she is able to wake herself at that time each morning. We have the same problem car wise as you. When she does get sooky, we just ignore it and go through the normal routine, sleeping bag off - nappy changed, peek a boo with her bunny and out of the bedroom. She's usually settled once the nappy changing is done. We've found that tears are becoming more common around here in general, we aren't sure if it's the age or daycare but she's really started to turn on the water works at the drop of a hat if things aren't going as she wants them. We're just ignoring at the moment (unless there's a reason of course) and doing our normal thing. Eg - we put her in the high chair and she starts crying because we have to put the table part on and then put her bowl in front of her, we just ignore her tears and keep chatting away about putting on the table part and here's her food and it's dinner time. So maybe try that in the mornings? Part of me thinks that if there is nothing obviously wrong like in pain, upset at being woken or woken up suddenly and it's becoming a bit of a routine, he just might like the attention crying gets. (now I have to wait for the hate mail to come in after that comment)

BUT - I did notice you said he stops if he's fed. He might just be hungry...........especially if he's a good sleeper. Maybe just have a bottle ready to go for the days you wake him and it might be a bit easier for all.

GL

[peanutter]

it is!! and her worst bit? It. Is. Every. Morning.

he's in a fantastic routine, but every morning he cries ... and when I only get a few minutes with him (alarm goes off at 6am, and we're out the door by 6.40am, including in that time getting up, geting dressed, hair, face, pack bags, change his nappy, bottle and periodic aneurysms...) it's not much fun if he's crying

that being said, he does sleep from 7pm/7.30pm right through until 6/6.30am, so hunger would be a valid call ... and as he's placated by his bottle without fail, maybe I just need to not take it personally, or as a negative ... he wakes up, he's hungry, he cries ... he's not sad or anything, just hungry ... maybe?

I hope you haven't received any hate mail ... we all parent the way we think is best for our babies

[totally unrelated: we're having a Melboure CBD meetup ... wanna come play? check out the thread in meet ups, or PM me ]

[starangelk]

I'm in Qld!!! Otherwise would have totally loved to meet up

Totally think you have hit the nail on the head, don't take it personally........I can hear DD whinging now because DH has just gotten the orange out of the fridge and she can see him cutting it up while she's in the high chair and she wants it NOW.

And nope, no hate mail so far

[peanutter]

I tried something different this morning, and I got him up and we did nursery rhymes for a while (maybe 10 minutes?) and then when he was happy, we then did his bottle, nappy, and I got ready for work. It meant I got a later train, but the world did not end ... even though it wasn't my train, and so I couldn't sit in my seat ...

Sheldon much?

[~Kaz~]

Glad to hear the new routine worked mate. I was just going to say that my DS went though a stage of doing this too and it seemed to last forever! Now we don't have tears on waking but he still wants to get out of bed in his own time - wants to play with myself or DP as audience. He seems to take a long time to wake up and he almost always engages in a lot of grumbling and moaning as he is coming out of the sleep state. He is getting better slowly.....

I found hunger seemed to be the main issue as well so I would often get his breakfast ready first, before getting him out of bed so that after his change and getting dressed he could go straight into the high chair and that nearly always worked to cheer him up.

Another thing I thought is that if you're a bit time pressured (how on earth do you get both of you ready in just 40mins? I need double that time lol!) then perhaps he is picking up on your stress levels and is now expecting mornings to be a bit unsettled?

[starangelk]

Sheldon - baahahahahhaha

[FabFiona]

I have nothing but amazement for the fact you get out of the house in 40 mins. You are my hero.

[peanutter]

I have nothing but amazement for the fact you get out of the house in 40 mins. You are my hero.

I have decided that showers are for nighttime, and makeup is not for me.

and my personal best as a student was bed to train in 7 minutes (I then had 38 minutes to get my shoes, socks and belt out of my bag and onto my body, brush and tie up my hair, and eat two apples and read a chapter of my book on the train, before I arrived at school)