Oh yes, we had a meltdown over pushing a button once too - pretty minor in comparison though!

Hmmm generally they are mini-meltdowns but Wednesdays was definitely over half an hour. I think he was exhausted. His Dad usually does pick him and all the other Dads were arriving.

Sorry - its my 3 year old. No, I don't think a spill anywhere other than inside our house would upset him.. He has had fears before but they come and go. His fear of the bath about a year ago was quite intense. So much so that just knowing the bath was there just down the hall from his bedroom was a source of anxiety. A lot of his fears are around water/liquids but I think the anxiety is there first and he's displacing it. I had to shut a cupboard and put some nappies away the other night before he could relax and go upstairs to bed.

Thankyou, I have found chatting about how the situation could be handled (when he is calm) really helps. We are also rating spillages at the moment in terms of small, medium, large and disaster sized. I know he is listening to everything I say because he will say it back to me later so I won't give up trying to reason e.g after 20 minutes of me telling him his "sheets were ok at daycare overnight - and we can't go back in peak hour traffic and get them now anyway" I said "ok, so how about next week we take them in in the mornings and then take them home every night, so you don't miss them and get upset?", he said "no, they'll look after them at daycare"'!!! And he started to calm down after that

We have an Employee Assistance service at work so I can chat to a psych whenever at no cost - I've made a phone appointment for Monday..