Uh oh! I think we 'broke' our baby...

[Miss E]

It took a couple of months for our DD to go back to self settling after a 10 day holiday where she shared our bed. What did it for us was getting her out of the cot and into a bed. I settled her in the bed and often stayed till she was asleep, then left.

OMG a couple of months... Here I was hoping for a couple of weeks. So did you go to a big girl bed? Or did you put her to sleep in your bed?

[MamaPan]

J wasnt having a feed before bed for a while ( we moved to DH putting to bed for the most part) but always had a 4.30ish feed (sometimes 3.30ish)... i think when he woke in th enight it was like 'is it time for that yet???'. he was clawing at me all the time in the day trying to feed and it was a major comfort thing for him (but was becoming hard for me to manage - different issue/circumstance). iot wasnt as hard asi thought to wean him - maybe you can get rid of those feeds using your DH to help - i decided it was time when the feeds werent a sleep cue...
he is in the merino kids bags (the ones from nz). i love them. his fits ok but he isnt so big (only just hitting 10kg). i think i will buy one a size bigger soon and see how we go. i know with DS1 i bought some bigger bags and then he gave them up!
some sep advice - DS1 was a terrible sleeper - we moved him to a bed at 19 months (a king single so a big boy bed) and this created a much more positive experience for him (and me!). i used to lie down and settle him and then leave. it chgd things a lot for us. but he never really liked his cot! i have also heard of people putting a mattress on the floor and that helping a lot too....

[sloane]

some sep advice - DS1 was a terrible sleeper - we moved him to a bed at 19 months (a king single so a big boy bed) and this created a much more positive experience for him (and me!). i used to lie down and settle him and then leave. it chgd things a lot for us. but he never really liked his cot! i have also heard of people putting a mattress on the floor and that helping a lot too....

that's what we've done - we have a king single & at the moment just use the mattress on the floor. when DS is a bit bigger we'll use the base as well. DS has been in it since he was about 10 months old and it is soooo much easier to settle him. but as MP said with her DS1, corey has never liked his cot.

i was also going to say that i'm about to start the weaning process as well. as with sleeping, i've noticed a big change in how DS feeds now - he doesn't really attach properly for a good feed, it really does seem to be about comfort & i'd really like to see if we can meet that need another way (i feel a bit selfish but figure that we've had a very good run!).

[Miss E]

i was also going to say that i'm about to start the weaning process as well. as with sleeping, i've noticed a big change in how DS feeds now - he doesn't really attach properly for a good feed, it really does seem to be about comfort & i'd really like to see if we can meet that need another way (i feel a bit selfish but figure that we've had a very good run!).

Yeah, Ash is the same, it seems like my nipples are always a bit sore now and I can't get him to attach 100% properly. Also he hardly ever seems to swallow anymore, so it does seem like it is more out of comfort than anything else... I know what you mean about feeling a bit selfish, that's why I've been putting it off, but there is a big part of me that really wants my body back (god I feel selfish just writing that) for awhile before we go for number 2 iykwim? And, one of my best friends is getting married in a few weeks and having her hens down the penninsula, I'd love to be able to go down in the afternoon and not have to be home to feed DS before bed at 7pm (even more selfish!).

Think we'll try putting him to bed without a feed tonight and see what happens... (gulp)

[sloane]

i totally hear you on that one - it's exactly why i'd like to wean as well. i feel horrible & selfish for it, but also think that i am entitled to have my body back for a bit.

good luck tonight

[MamaPan]

girls - we are all on the same page here!!!!! amazing!
best of luck tonight Miss - it may be best if you are out and he sees you go (maybe for a walk) so your Dh could put him down. it wont be easy - it isnt the first time... but then again when we did it it was easier than i thought. maybe give hima cup of milk or water and tell him you arent going to feed him. let us know how you go! xxx

[sloane]

this is why BB is great - now we all feel 'normal'

i agree on being out - i went out for dinner on tues night & it only took DP about 10 mins to get him to sleep & he slept for 7 hours instead of the usual 3. think i might go out more often