Huge hugs hun. It is noone's business but yours how you choose to bring up your children. All they needed to know is that you are informed and educated. Looks to me like you are making an informed and well thought-out decision. They should have been able to see that. Some people are ignorant to all but what they think is right. Every family and child is different and you have your reasons for choosing as you have. I am glad you didn't feel guilty about your choices. And it is all a choice for individual families. It sounds to me like yours has been very informed and well researched decision, poo to anyone who challenges that!