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Everyone's two cents is good. Put them all together and we have the bright shiny dollar that is BB :D:
Me, I'm not comfortable putting holes in my kids without informed consent, unless I judge it's necessary for their welfare. I guess the question, then, is at what age do they have the ability to give informed consent? :dunno: Not under 5, I reckon, anyway.
No I dont like the look of it on babies. I will only consider getting my dd's done when they request it if I feel they really want it and have some understanding about caring for them and what piercing involves.
Im with Teni it is a painful procedure that alters their appearance with risk of infection and I feel it is unnecessary, for me there are other ways to adorn little girls, clothes, hair ties head bands hats etc that arent invasive but thats my choice
that is just my opinion as requested by the OP and I wouldnt have a go at someone who does chose to pierce their childs ears, each to their own
Very true - i'm sure there are many "lifestyle" choices we all make for our children that are potentially a lot more damaging than piercing their ears. ultimately, earrings can be removed and holes, for the most part, close over. if not, it is, in most cases, a small mark. many choices parents make aren't reversible at all...:
tehehe i wonder if anyone considers the psychological damage that may be caused by clothes (and makeup) - Toddlers and Tiaras anyone??:
Not trying to be argumentative, i'm genuinely curious - how does having ears pierced stop a child being a child?:
I totally get how early sexualisation of children through clothing (music videos/popular culture) can impact on a child and force them to grow up too soon, but i don't understand how earrings do this. i had my ears pierced at 11 months and, even though my childhood was crappy for other reasons, i was still a kid!
I don't like it and haven't gotten my girls ear's pierced, but it is a HUGE PITA if your kids play sport because they have to take them out. My girls play netball and if I had a dollar for every pair of earings I've had to keep in my pocket during the game for one of their team mates I'd be rich. And then there was one girl who had to sit out the game because she'd only just had them done the day before and couldn't take them out yet.
IMO they are an unnecessary fashion statement and if they want them done they can do it when they are earning their own money to pay for it. But that said, I'd never begrudge anyone else the right to get their children's ears pierced :)
I had this convo with my friends a few weeks back... I said I would think about it when DD1 asked me about it...
And of course DD1 asked within days (she wasnt around when we talked before). She wanted to know what they were, I told her they were my earrings and her response was...
Are they like your special ring daddy gave you when you were married??
After my heart melted with how cute she is, I answred that yes they were.. She then said that she was happy to wait until a special time like that to get them done. Gotta love her.
When and if my daughter wants them done I will let her so my plan is to wait until she asks. I prefer that she choose to go as It's something she can dedide on herself and it may even be the first BIG decision of her life hehehe oh so much to look forward too....
Bg, for me it is a more grown up thing with jewellery, high heels and fashion etc. but thst's just my opinion
My girls had their ears pierced at just under 4 months. No problems, no trouble, they both like them and I do too.
I vaguely remember when my Mum had her own ears pierced, it was her 30th Birthday!
I've never had my ears pierced, just not interested... maybe for my 30th lol.
My daughters will be allowed if they ask (I'm not going to be bringing it up or anything) around 10-13, not sure exactly.
fair enough! thanks for answering!:
DH and I were talking about this quite recently.
DH was of the opinion that we should get them done whilst DD was young so that she wouldn't remember that it hurt and to 'get it over and done with'. I on the other hand remember how much it hurt to have my ears pierced (I originally had them done at about 7, but one said got infected so I had to wait for it to close up before getting it done again, I then had numerous other holes put in once I was over 18). I will therefore wait until DD asks to have them done (whatever age that may be, I don't mind if it's youngish). I guess that is the other thing, I mentioned to DH that she might not want her ears pierced, but he felt that most girls have their ears pierced so she would probably want hers done too.
Oh, and I don't mind the look of ear rings on babies. I just don't want to have to possibly deal with any infection and the pain whilst she is young and doesn't understand why her ears hurt.
We've been trying to convince DSD to get them done for about 18 months - the plan was it could be a 10th birthday present..... we took her once... she freaked out.... (obviously we didn't end up stabbing her then...) and it was third time lucky.... it appears her mother had been telling her it would "hurt so bad and you'll freak out and it will be terrible... stupid woman...
anyway DSD is now SOOO happy to have them (she has been desperate for ages!) and she is looking after them herself and so far no problems.
I had mine done for my 9th birthday and I think I too was more than capable of making that decision and looking after them.
I don't see any problem with getting them done as a baby.... but I think the bigger issue you have here is that you and DP have very different opinions. That's something that you both need to come to terms with first - my feeling would be that if he doesn't want it, then you probably can't force the issue. Maybe you can convince him - or negotiate, but I agree with the others who have said not to do it behind his back - that's just fraught with danger!!
I'm against it. I don't like the idea of inflicting pain on a baby for cosmetic reasons. I think they have beautiful little ears that don't need holes put in them without them being able to choose for themselves. My dd can have them when she is old enough to ask for them, know the risks and take care of them. I work at a school and I can tell which little girls have had their ears pierced as babies. Some have really unevenly placed earrings and some are too far along the earlobe because their little ears keep growing. I also don't like the look of them on babies.
I'm not a fan, I think it is totally unnecessary.
I got mine done when I was 5 and asked if I could, I think that was too early and my parents should've made me wait a little while longer.
Excuse my sucky spelling, I'm on my iPhone
I would never do it to my girls. I'm not sure what age I would let them. But whenever I think they are mature enough to make that choice and get what it means I guess, I think it will be over 10yrs old. It is only a fashion accessory, not something that they HAVE to eventually get done, so I would never just do it for them without knowing if that's what they want.
I grew up in a culture and household where girl's ears are pierced quite early and I think it's cute. I would do it for my daughters-if they choose to discontinue wearing them later in life it's their choice. I prefer d tiny studs and not loops that can be pulled.
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not trying to start anything but this can just mean a inexperienced person doing the piercing.. not because they had it done young. all 3 of my children's holes are even and fine.