have done this too olive. She asks for milk and throws it which is fine, i just take it and say well you go without. We got her a tinkerbelle drink bottle that she is only allowed to have water in (DD1 takes a bottle of water to have next to her bed) and though maybe she might want to do the same as her big sister, but its not milk so she doesn't like it. I also have tried giving her a small amount of milk in a cup before bed in place of the bottle, but the tantrums still come.
I usually give things 2 - 3 wks of trying something new before i end up giving up. I'm probably not as hard on her as i was dd1 with things like this, more so because i simply do what i have to do to get through, especially since i'm working/studying/still gettin gup to both girls 4 - 5 times a night. I'm usually just soooo tired and my aniexty goes through the rrof when i have to fight so much.
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