Becoming Enduring Power of Attorney for my mother.

[Jennifer13]

What a tough one.

If you can get her to buy herself a house, I'd let her get what she wants. The bigger and more expensive it is, the less she can just waste. Maybe ask her if you and your brother can go on the deed and that means your inheritance is secure? Not saying that's why (it would just prevent her from selling or taking out a mortgage without your knowledge), but maybe she would get that reason? Less pressing for her to make a will then.

But you are clearly the best judge of how to handle the situation. What does DH think?

It sounds like you are doing all you can.

[nickle730]

Instead of going through legal channels for POA could you convince your mum to put the money into a bank account which require both of you to sign for withdrawls? That way the money would be safe until she finds a house or decides how to invest it.

I do think the first thing to do is to sit down and tell her your concerns. If you phrase it gently, she shouldn't be offended and she might (might!) surprise you with her response!

You mentioned your dad, but I'm assuming they're no longer together?