Budgeting for cigarettes..

[Lulliloo]

we just went through a really tough time with money too and my dh smokes and drinks. it was very hard to make him understand the things that i was sacrifising to support his habits. we used to get in lots of fights about it.
i just dont' think they think that far ahead or figure that we are surviving so thats all that matters. but meanwhile i was missing out on everything and he was getting everything he wanted.

hope you work something out. i don't really have any advice coz nothing worked for me.

[Jellybean29]

Feed him baked beans on toast and tell him you can't afford the luxury of 'meat' because you need to budget for his ciggies

[Traveller]

For me I would see it as an addiction, so I begrudgingly budget accordingly. It sucks but he will not give up or even cut down until he is ready.

[emc2]

We split up.

I never moved in with him, but I worked out he would have spent more than what I spent getting ready for the baby to come - on ciggies. It would be something like $6000 a year. Fair enough if you have the income to cover it, but not if you are struggling.

[blessedatlast]

Feed him baked beans on toast and tell him you can't afford the luxury of 'meat' because you need to budget for his ciggies

That wont work. I'm on bed rest so he has to do the shopping and he does most of the cooking.. Actually maybe him doing the shopping will at least let him see that living isn't cheap.

Perhaps buy a blank exercise book, label each page for each week and on each page write down the income for that week then get him to work out how the bills are going to be paid and when and get him to write it down in the book on the allocated page. Once he sees in front of him that you both can't afford to maintain his cigarettes and drinks it may help. Let him see clearly that your expenses are more than your income. Good luck Hun.

Again hard to do.. He earns different amounts each week which makes it hard to budget. His work is up and down ATM which is what stresses me. At least when we had my income it was stable and I could budget that, but that's gone now

For me I would see it as an addiction, so I begrudgingly budget accordingly. It sucks but he will not give up or even cut down until he is ready.

I agree. I know he wont give up, I just wish he would buy cheaper smokes. Or when we are at the end of the pay week, buy rollies or something!! Why buy the most expensive cigarettes??

Thanks for the advice. I think I just need to know I am not alone in my frustration lol

[Blixie]

make him buy a winfield pouch (rollies) so still the tobacco brand he likes but cheaper/lasts longer?
I was the smoker back before children and i honestly don't know how DP put up with the smell let alone the costs!
Good luck
ETA: I'd only buy a pack of horizon 50's which back then were $15 then rollies for the rest of the week? maybe he could do that? So still have "tailor made" but not only tailor made IYKWIM?

[Lulliloo]

i also made dh swap to rollies. heaps cheaper. he now still smokes them .

[Leopard]

Okay I am a smoker (Please do not attack me for being a pregnant smoker, I have cut back quite a lot).
Ciggerettes are a huge expense, especially if he is smoking a pack a day. Winfield, is as you say, quite expensive! Try suggesting he buy 50g packets of rolling tobacco, it is not as convieniant (which makes you smoke less) and last a lot longer. If he prefers tailor-mades then suggest he goes to the local tobacconist and buy a tailor-made machine (it comes with the tailor-made outside and a little thing that allows you to push tobacco into them). Also John Player Special seems to be one of the cheapest tobaccos at the moment, so maybe ask if he would be willing to try it?

Sorry I could not be of much more help.

[Diamond75]

Perhaps buy a blank exercise book, label each page for each week and on each page write down the income for that week then get him to work out how the bills are going to be paid and when and get him to write it down in the book on the allocated page. Once he sees in front of him that you both can't afford to maintain his cigarettes and drinks it may help. Let him see clearly that your expenses are more than your income. Good luck Hun.