The only time I ever do it when DH has bought stuff without talking to me, stuff that I think is a waste of money. For instance, the $80 I found once that he had spent on a Facebook game Even then though, I only bought myself a $20 bunch of flowers, I felt too guilty buying more
We sort of work like that, we'll save up or borrow from our emergency fund, but yeah we try to stay equal with things - like if he's going on a boys weekend, we agree that he arranges for the boys to stay with his parents for some of that time.
It's sort of agreed here, as opposed to retaliation, but it may as well be, I mean, if he's just spent money on something and I call and check, but remind him of the money he's just spent - what else can he say but 'yeah that sounds fine'?
We don't retaliate shop. I figure it probably all works out in the end.
If DH comes home and 'informs' me he needs to spend money, I am more likely to interogate him into submission. Or alternatively discuss it like adults and make a 'joint' decision (although, he does sometimes try to load the decision on my shoulders, so he has someone to blame if he 'cann't' do/spend whatever - but I refuse to be a party to that, and won't let up until he reaches his own conclusions). Really depends on what mood I am in and how 'reasonable' DH is being.
I did some retaliation shopping on my honeymoon! lol.
XH decided against my better judgement that he would go to the casino and "show me how to play black jack". He lost $75 in 5 minutes, so I went and bought a new pair of jeans
It seems unfair that we scrimp and save and go without only for them to spend without even thinking about it
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
Even then though, I only bought myself a $20 bunch of flowers, I felt too guilty buying more
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