These are truely sad cases and I am sure you would never get over the pain and it would be very hard not to blame yourself and others. My Dh.. best friends... sister is a midwife who decided on a homebirth... for various reasons by the time they picked up they had'nt heard the babies HB for a while and an ambulance got there the damage was done, the little baby boy died a couple of days later. it destroyed their friendship!!! her midwife friend could'nt live with herself and gave up her job and the mother herself moved from the hospital she was working in to another in Melb, she has since gone on the have 2 other babies both in hospital..it nearly cost them (her and her DP) there relationship and she is a very different person, just so tragic.

I guess it does'nt matter how careful you are or where you are, home or hospital....things can and do go wrong, babies and mums die, perhaps we don't hear what the numbers really are???

Footnote I noticed the other day at Monash in Clayton they have a midwife assisted homebirth clinic, the middies come to you at home for visits and the birth, I am not sure how well known these things are..I guess it is about being in the right place at the right time???