Just to be clear I am not trying to get into an argument and i know that everyone on here wants to make this whole process as wonderful as possible to women on the BB forums and be supportive of each other. I am feeling quite sensitive about this whole topic as I am feeling pressured from a lot of corners (as you can well imagine after my cousins comment!). and I was not implying that you would not go to an OB only for financial reasons, I was thinking of something as offensive as what was said to me. so sorry if it came across differently. As it happens I havent even made many choices other than my OB and hospital... at my appt next week I intend to discuss what options are avail with my OB and I also have a Doula who I am hoping will help me to make choices, be informed, and be heard as I expect to be...
IK the comments that cut me a little are comments that ppl who have chousen certain methods - you educate and 'normalise' them but I think you mean you normalise the choices. I guess I dont feel this speaks to me as I have friends, relatives who have done many diff methods so I dont think it is weird or anything - I am just making a slightly different choice...
It's great we can all have our points of view - lets just be supportive of each other whatever the views/choices are...
Yep, Pregpan, I mean normalising the 'alternatives', so that they are not just 'alternative', but legitimate choices that don't send people off assuming that you are a loony, or a tree-hugging, bleeding heart. That's great that among your circle this isn't the case. For many people, though, like myself, this isn't the case. I have talked about my experiences a lot so that the next person whom some of these people meet won't get the same 'you've just grown another head' treatment when they mention they want a waterbirth, want to do hypnobirthing, want a drug-free birth etc (in my fire brigade circle, I had every firefighters wife, just about, telling me to 'just take the drugs' in a tone that held no respect for the aims I had!). For me, more than for myself, my plans were for the benefit of my child. Why should that be 'alternative' or taking a 'risk'?
I really do think it's really awful what your cousin said to you - that is so rude! Like I said, I wouldn't have thought it had anything to do with 'yuppiness' or perceived economic status!!
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