Thank you for all the replies. I have decided not to commit either way yet, I will try to prepare him incase we decide he will be right to come but I think I will see how he is closer to time and if we think he will cope with it at the time. I will however tell the midwife and write in the birth plan that I wish for him and his carer to be able to come and go throughout the labour and birth as they please. Anyone know how is should word that for the birth plan? I want them to listen to my request, if they stopped him from coming in when he wanted I would be really ticked off. I had problems with them listening when I had DS. Thanks.