2 year old at birth

Matryoshka · April 7th, 2008, 05:59 PM

I really want my son to be at the birth. First we had thought it wasn't a good idea as he is very sensitive especially if i am in pain or crying - he has burst in to tears before when he's seen me hurt myself. But as he's gotten older, he seems to be maturing in that sense and recently comforted me when i was crying rather than reacting in fear. So i think he is understanding pain and emotions.

We are never apart, and very close. I just can't imagine being away from him for the birth. I did plan to have him in another room with my MIL, but i'd really like him to be with me. I am hoping to birth much quieter than last time (though i wasn't really vocal until the pushing stage). I think if i am moaning loudly it will scare him, but i've done more research this time and i'm hoping to avoid that and focus more on the breathing (easier said than done but i'm more aware than last time).

Has anyone had their little one at the birth? how much of it? how did it go?

**The[cookie]Doctor** · April 7th, 2008, 06:06 PM

Hey there MummaB

You might find this article of use...
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth/siblings-at-birth

My mum had my 15 & 10 year old brother at the birth of the twins and it went great for her, but there is quite a substantial age difference so i guess not much comparison! I can tell you though the boys were proud as punch to say they'd seen a real live birth, they found it quite impressive.

Hope you can get some better answers from others!

**{sarah}** · April 7th, 2008, 06:19 PM

Read books with him to prepare him maybe? There are some out there that talk about mummy making noises & what happens during the birth. They might help to prepare him for what's going to happen. Otherwise, have MIL handy so if he gets distressed she can take him & explain what's happening etc.

**Trish** · April 7th, 2008, 07:41 PM

Abbey was born at home in November just gone. My then 2 year 8 month daughter was awake to see it. She woke when Abbey was crowning (I wonder why) and sat there wide eyed watching as she was born. She wasn't at all distressed. She has watched the video of her birth several times earlier though so perhaps she was already aware of what was happening.

I say go for it. As long as you have someone to be your childs support person incase it gets abit much for them.

Goodluck with your upcoming birth

Ellibam · April 7th, 2008, 08:01 PM

makon was 22 months and he was at the birth( i wanted him in the room but it happened very quickly) he came in just as i was pulling her out of the water.
my MIl was his support person so she ot him breakfast and went for a walk with him!
he would come up to me and say 'mummy ok?' and i always said yes mummy is just making noises to get baby out!
we did a little bit of build up before the birth! i thjink that is why there is no rivallry/jealousy cos he was there! i didnt go away and come back with a screaming baby!