I thought more about this last night & came to the conclusion that the way she birthed would be a major reason or the tearing.
They gave her an induction (the drip) for no reason, she was already in labour, then I'm pretty sure she had an epi. She also heomerraged (sp?)
She was in surgery for about 2 hours.
I'll go write her a long pm explaining it all to her.
Thanks guys